First Date

The first date is the most complex of all dates.  This is usually due to the wide range of ‘what if’s’ that people deal with.  Many individuals find themselves wondering about what to do, what to wear, where to go…and so many other things that they forget about what is really important on this first date.  That is, of course, that the two of you get to know each other.  Now, before you put a lot of pressure on yourself about the various things that you will need to do here, you will want to step back and realize that you do not know the other person just yet.

What you should do are these things. 

• Put your best side forward.  Present yourself in an honest manor at your best.  You should not make it more complicated than that.  If you are not going to be truly you, then they will not be able to really get to know who you are.  Date two will not happen if they do not get to know you here.

• Present yourself in the best manner.  One of the many things that people worry about is what they will wear on their first date.  Not to worry, though, there is a lot of help here.  For example, you will want to wear clothing that is appropriate for where you are going.  You do not want to flaunt yourself or be too showing in what you wear.  This is a first date. 

• Do only what makes you feel comfortable.  If you really do not like movies, then tell them that.  If you normally eat a burger and fries, don’t go for just a salad.  You will want to make sure that what you do is really what you would normally do.  If you do not like something, don’t lead the other person on. 

  Your first date is a time to get to know who the other person is.  That means you should ask them questions but be prepared to answer those questions yourself.  Smile and be happy.  Don’t talk about your ex or go into long political debates just yet.  For your first date, just learn about the person sitting across from you and see if they are the right type of person for you to get to know a little better.