1st time falling in love

He loves me NOT
I am 37 years old and a single mother of a 17 year old boy. I have never been in a relationship before, so I guess one could say I got drunk and now I am blessed with a child (I do not regret at all). The one regret would be that his father passed away 13 years ago. So, I met this guy about 5 months ago, and have been spending time together since. However, we really haven't done anything except for when I have stayed the night at his place we snuggle and cuddle. Which I enjoy. I take that back we have did some heavy petting and other things. We have not been intimate in the way that we would or I would like to be. He always says "Don't fall in love with me, I consider you a good friend". Well guess what, I did fall for him. He knows it because we had the discussion about how I felt just a couple of weeks ago. It hasn't scared him off, because we are still hanging out with each other. Matter of fact, we had just spent a romantic gettaway with each other out of town at a nice hotel, took in the sights and had a great time. We still haven't done much of anything. But, he would give me a little kiss every now and then or a little stroke on the back. I feel that maybe he likes me a lot but doesn't want to admit to himself how he feels. I don't know, because I have never felt like this before. My stomach gets in knots and I can't wait to hear from him everyday. Oh, yes he CALLS me everyday. But I'm not suppose to fall in love! If any one has any advice please help me out. I do have more to this story.

memo222
Hey garl, Its sad that this guy is acting all funny on u! Pliz baby control urself on him! This guy has openely told u not to fall in love! He is running from commiting or something of that sort. So pliz, dont force him to fall in love with you other wise u will get 2 intimate and he'll leave u with a baby!!!! Just try and stay away until he tells u he is in love with u!

memo222
Hey garl, I have a problem i need help but cant find were i can press to start a new topic? How did u start this topic?

-gypsy-
Morning Notlove, what a nice mess! He tells you not to fall in love, and takes you on a romantic getaway? Nice. What do you want? Do you want to be in love, are you looking for a full time guy, wedding bells? Sit down and think about it. Because if he has already said he's not these things, then you already know he's not the one.

SheaLuna
This guy is definitely playing with you. He tells you not to fall for him because he only feels for you as a friend, but then he does a little "heavy petting" and some "kissing" and a "romantic getaway"? That is utter non-sense. Run, girl. Run far, far away! He will play with you, waste your time, then break your heart. You need someone who wants to be with you in every way. YOU deserve that!

Oh Kay
You're getting the right advice here. This guy is telling you straight to your face that he's not looking for a relationship with you. If you continue this way there is some serious heartbreak coming your way. It's been said on these boards over & over. Don't take something someone says & try to analyze it. Take it for what it is. My advice to you would be to pull back before you get hurt. If he means something other than what he's saying you'll know soon enough, but if what he is saying is exactly what he means, then you can move forward & find the person that is right for you.

He loves me NOT
I appreciate all the advice and help. I have actually stepped back and thought about what has gone on. I figured that if he feels for me the way I think he does it will come out. I haven't called him, however he is calling me everyday. I don't want to be the clingy one. I am over weight and I like that it doesn't bother him. I am tired of being lonely so I feel that I am clinging on to him because he does pay attention to me and I haven't had that before. So for me to set back and wait is going to be hard, I don't want to come off looking easy of for looking for love in ALL the wrong places.

kerplunkLYN
I don't want to come off looking easy of for looking for love in ALL the wrong places. Good point. It makes sense then, that you've fallen for a man who told you NOT to fall for him.

He loves me NOT
I am 37 years old and a single mother of a 17 year old boy. I have never been in a relationship before, so I guess one could say I got drunk and now I am blessed with a child (I do not regret at all). The one regret would be that his father passed away 13 years ago. So, I met this guy about 5 months ago, and have been spending time together since. However, we really haven't done anything except for when I have stayed the night at his place we snuggle and cuddle. Which I enjoy. I take that back we have did some heavy petting and other things. We have not been intimate in the way that we would or I would like to be. He always says "Don't fall in love with me, I consider you a good friend". Well guess what, I did fall for him. He knows it because we had the discussion about how I felt just a couple of weeks ago. It hasn't scared him off, because we are still hanging out with each other. Matter of fact, we had just spent a romantic gettaway with each other out of town at a nice hotel, took in the sights and had a great time. We still haven't done much of anything. But, he would give me a little kiss every now and then or a little stroke on the back. I feel that maybe he likes me a lot but doesn't want to admit to himself how he feels. I don't know, because I have never felt like this before. My stomach gets in knots and I can't wait to hear from him everyday. Oh, yes he CALLS me everyday. But I'm not suppose to fall in love! If any one has any advice please help me out. I do have more to this story.

memo222
Hey garl, Its sad that this guy is acting all funny on u! Pliz baby control urself on him! This guy has openely told u not to fall in love! He is running from commiting or something of that sort. So pliz, dont force him to fall in love with you other wise u will get 2 intimate and he'll leave u with a baby!!!! Just try and stay away until he tells u he is in love with u!

memo222
Hey garl, I have a problem i need help but cant find were i can press to start a new topic? How did u start this topic?

-gypsy-
Morning Notlove, what a nice mess! He tells you not to fall in love, and takes you on a romantic getaway? Nice. What do you want? Do you want to be in love, are you looking for a full time guy, wedding bells? Sit down and think about it. Because if he has already said he's not these things, then you already know he's not the one.

SheaLuna
This guy is definitely playing with you. He tells you not to fall for him because he only feels for you as a friend, but then he does a little "heavy petting" and some "kissing" and a "romantic getaway"? That is utter non-sense. Run, girl. Run far, far away! He will play with you, waste your time, then break your heart. You need someone who wants to be with you in every way. YOU deserve that!

Oh Kay
You're getting the right advice here. This guy is telling you straight to your face that he's not looking for a relationship with you. If you continue this way there is some serious heartbreak coming your way. It's been said on these boards over & over. Don't take something someone says & try to analyze it. Take it for what it is. My advice to you would be to pull back before you get hurt. If he means something other than what he's saying you'll know soon enough, but if what he is saying is exactly what he means, then you can move forward & find the person that is right for you.

He loves me NOT
I appreciate all the advice and help. I have actually stepped back and thought about what has gone on. I figured that if he feels for me the way I think he does it will come out. I haven't called him, however he is calling me everyday. I don't want to be the clingy one. I am over weight and I like that it doesn't bother him. I am tired of being lonely so I feel that I am clinging on to him because he does pay attention to me and I haven't had that before. So for me to set back and wait is going to be hard, I don't want to come off looking easy of for looking for love in ALL the wrong places.

kerplunkLYN
I don't want to come off looking easy of for looking for love in ALL the wrong places. Good point. It makes sense then, that you've fallen for a man who told you NOT to fall for him.

He loves me NOT
I am 37 years old and a single mother of a 17 year old boy. I have never been in a relationship before, so I guess one could say I got drunk and now I am blessed with a child (I do not regret at all). The one regret would be that his father passed away 13 years ago. So, I met this guy about 5 months ago, and have been spending time together since. However, we really haven't done anything except for when I have stayed the night at his place we snuggle and cuddle. Which I enjoy. I take that back we have did some heavy petting and other things. We have not been intimate in the way that we would or I would like to be. He always says "Don't fall in love with me, I consider you a good friend". Well guess what, I did fall for him. He knows it because we had the discussion about how I felt just a couple of weeks ago. It hasn't scared him off, because we are still hanging out with each other. Matter of fact, we had just spent a romantic gettaway with each other out of town at a nice hotel, took in the sights and had a great time. We still haven't done much of anything. But, he would give me a little kiss every now and then or a little stroke on the back. I feel that maybe he likes me a lot but doesn't want to admit to himself how he feels. I don't know, because I have never felt like this before. My stomach gets in knots and I can't wait to hear from him everyday. Oh, yes he CALLS me everyday. But I'm not suppose to fall in love! If any one has any advice please help me out. I do have more to this story.

memo222
Hey garl, Its sad that this guy is acting all funny on u! Pliz baby control urself on him! This guy has openely told u not to fall in love! He is running from commiting or something of that sort. So pliz, dont force him to fall in love with you other wise u will get 2 intimate and he'll leave u with a baby!!!! Just try and stay away until he tells u he is in love with u!

memo222
Hey garl, I have a problem i need help but cant find were i can press to start a new topic? How did u start this topic?

-gypsy-
Morning Notlove, what a nice mess! He tells you not to fall in love, and takes you on a romantic getaway? Nice. What do you want? Do you want to be in love, are you looking for a full time guy, wedding bells? Sit down and think about it. Because if he has already said he's not these things, then you already know he's not the one.

SheaLuna
This guy is definitely playing with you. He tells you not to fall for him because he only feels for you as a friend, but then he does a little "heavy petting" and some "kissing" and a "romantic getaway"? That is utter non-sense. Run, girl. Run far, far away! He will play with you, waste your time, then break your heart. You need someone who wants to be with you in every way. YOU deserve that!

Oh Kay
You're getting the right advice here. This guy is telling you straight to your face that he's not looking for a relationship with you. If you continue this way there is some serious heartbreak coming your way. It's been said on these boards over & over. Don't take something someone says & try to analyze it. Take it for what it is. My advice to you would be to pull back before you get hurt. If he means something other than what he's saying you'll know soon enough, but if what he is saying is exactly what he means, then you can move forward & find the person that is right for you.

He loves me NOT
I appreciate all the advice and help. I have actually stepped back and thought about what has gone on. I figured that if he feels for me the way I think he does it will come out. I haven't called him, however he is calling me everyday. I don't want to be the clingy one. I am over weight and I like that it doesn't bother him. I am tired of being lonely so I feel that I am clinging on to him because he does pay attention to me and I haven't had that before. So for me to set back and wait is going to be hard, I don't want to come off looking easy of for looking for love in ALL the wrong places.

kerplunkLYN
I don't want to come off looking easy of for looking for love in ALL the wrong places. Good point. It makes sense then, that you've fallen for a man who told you NOT to fall for him.