2 GUYS, ONE GIRL, AND I NEED ADVICE!!!!!!!

Singlemama81
I'm in a huge rut. Here's the situation. I've been dating the same guy for about 8 months. Long story short, we were set up on a blind date, by a friend. I went on the date, and didn't like him at all. I didn't even think twice about going out twith him again. Well, then the girl that set us up, got me a job, back in March, where we all work together now. I had second thoughts, and decided I wanted to date him. He's older than me, were 13 years apart. We both have one child from previous relationships. Well we started having problems back in July and broke up. I felt that he was absolutley not right for me, I'm not sure, I'm 100% attracted to him either. Well in the mean time, I had joined a dating site, and didn't meet anyone. About 1 1/2 months ago, he started calling me again, and we decided to give things another shot. I kinda was still looking, because I just don't know, if he's right for me. Were very different and come from different backgounds. Don't get me wrong, I care for him, and I do love him. Well about 3 1/2 weeks ago, I got an email, from this guy, on my dating website email. Long story short, we have a lot in common, and I decided to go on a date with him. We relly hit it off, and he's a really great guy, everything, is there. In the mean time, I'm obviously cheating on my Bf, and I don't know, what to do. I just went on a second date, on Saturday night, with the other guy, and I relly like him and he feels the same way. My bf, is talking about getting engaged and all of that stuff, and when I once wanted that, now I'm not sure, because, I ahve met this other guy, that I've hit it of with. I don't know, what to do, how do I decide??????

quickblade14
You realize you are in no way ready to do more than date, get laid, have, fun, and enjoy the moments spent together. You're NOT looking for a lifepartner - you're looking for a provider.And if you marry someone for providership - they'll provide for you on their terms...and you'll resent them for the terms eventually.

Singlemama81
Yes, that's kinda how I feel about my Bf, I feel that since he's soo much older, it will be on his terms, and that scares me, that I'll never be able to be myself, and have him except me for who I am. The other guy, I just feel it's all there, but how am I suppose to decide, and hurt someone, either way??

trudyML
Sounds like you decided and you are already hurting your bf. If you have any self respect at all left go tell your bf. Give him a break.

100pcentangel
these people just keep coming out of the woodwork today...reported

noquisi
You can't make a decision when your attention has been divided from the beginning. I don't understand, if you know that this boyfriend of yours is not right for you why do you keep forcing it upon yourself? Just break things off with your non compatible boyfriend and keep things light with your on line dating guy. The 2nd guy may seem great because its all new, you really cannot come to any conclusion as his character, just as he doesn't know your character at the moment. If he did I don't think he would want to get caught up with a confused person. Its time to be a grownup! Remember don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you. Always reverse the scenario and you will be guided on the right path.

glasslippers
What you are doing is so wrong in some many ways because you don't and have not cared for this man, you weren't looking for "Mr.Right" you were looking for "Mr.Right Now" and that's all your boyfriend was. Cut this man loose before you hurt him even more.

Minnesotagal
isn't this the same guy that you had your undies all in a bunch over because he was hanging out with his ex and their kid on holloween? and now your cheating on him? wow...why don't you just be single for a little while and get your head on straight. kind of sounds like you are afraid to be alone. please break up with your boyfriend because you obviously are not ready for a commited relationship.

Singlemama81
I'm in a huge rut. Here's the situation. I've been dating the same guy for about 8 months. Long story short, we were set up on a blind date, by a friend. I went on the date, and didn't like him at all. I didn't even think twice about going out twith him again. Well, then the girl that set us up, got me a job, back in March, where we all work together now. I had second thoughts, and decided I wanted to date him. He's older than me, were 13 years apart. We both have one child from previous relationships. Well we started having problems back in July and broke up. I felt that he was absolutley not right for me, I'm not sure, I'm 100% attracted to him either. Well in the mean time, I had joined a dating site, and didn't meet anyone. About 1 1/2 months ago, he started calling me again, and we decided to give things another shot. I kinda was still looking, because I just don't know, if he's right for me. Were very different and come from different backgounds. Don't get me wrong, I care for him, and I do love him. Well about 3 1/2 weeks ago, I got an email, from this guy, on my dating website email. Long story short, we have a lot in common, and I decided to go on a date with him. We relly hit it off, and he's a really great guy, everything, is there. In the mean time, I'm obviously cheating on my Bf, and I don't know, what to do. I just went on a second date, on Saturday night, with the other guy, and I relly like him and he feels the same way. My bf, is talking about getting engaged and all of that stuff, and when I once wanted that, now I'm not sure, because, I ahve met this other guy, that I've hit it of with. I don't know, what to do, how do I decide??????

quickblade14
You realize you are in no way ready to do more than date, get laid, have, fun, and enjoy the moments spent together. You're NOT looking for a lifepartner - you're looking for a provider.And if you marry someone for providership - they'll provide for you on their terms...and you'll resent them for the terms eventually.

Singlemama81
Yes, that's kinda how I feel about my Bf, I feel that since he's soo much older, it will be on his terms, and that scares me, that I'll never be able to be myself, and have him except me for who I am. The other guy, I just feel it's all there, but how am I suppose to decide, and hurt someone, either way??

trudyML
Sounds like you decided and you are already hurting your bf. If you have any self respect at all left go tell your bf. Give him a break.

100pcentangel
these people just keep coming out of the woodwork today...reported

noquisi
You can't make a decision when your attention has been divided from the beginning. I don't understand, if you know that this boyfriend of yours is not right for you why do you keep forcing it upon yourself? Just break things off with your non compatible boyfriend and keep things light with your on line dating guy. The 2nd guy may seem great because its all new, you really cannot come to any conclusion as his character, just as he doesn't know your character at the moment. If he did I don't think he would want to get caught up with a confused person. Its time to be a grownup! Remember don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you. Always reverse the scenario and you will be guided on the right path.

glasslippers
What you are doing is so wrong in some many ways because you don't and have not cared for this man, you weren't looking for "Mr.Right" you were looking for "Mr.Right Now" and that's all your boyfriend was. Cut this man loose before you hurt him even more.

Minnesotagal
isn't this the same guy that you had your undies all in a bunch over because he was hanging out with his ex and their kid on holloween? and now your cheating on him? wow...why don't you just be single for a little while and get your head on straight. kind of sounds like you are afraid to be alone. please break up with your boyfriend because you obviously are not ready for a commited relationship.

Singlemama81
I'm in a huge rut. Here's the situation. I've been dating the same guy for about 8 months. Long story short, we were set up on a blind date, by a friend. I went on the date, and didn't like him at all. I didn't even think twice about going out twith him again. Well, then the girl that set us up, got me a job, back in March, where we all work together now. I had second thoughts, and decided I wanted to date him. He's older than me, were 13 years apart. We both have one child from previous relationships. Well we started having problems back in July and broke up. I felt that he was absolutley not right for me, I'm not sure, I'm 100% attracted to him either. Well in the mean time, I had joined a dating site, and didn't meet anyone. About 1 1/2 months ago, he started calling me again, and we decided to give things another shot. I kinda was still looking, because I just don't know, if he's right for me. Were very different and come from different backgounds. Don't get me wrong, I care for him, and I do love him. Well about 3 1/2 weeks ago, I got an email, from this guy, on my dating website email. Long story short, we have a lot in common, and I decided to go on a date with him. We relly hit it off, and he's a really great guy, everything, is there. In the mean time, I'm obviously cheating on my Bf, and I don't know, what to do. I just went on a second date, on Saturday night, with the other guy, and I relly like him and he feels the same way. My bf, is talking about getting engaged and all of that stuff, and when I once wanted that, now I'm not sure, because, I ahve met this other guy, that I've hit it of with. I don't know, what to do, how do I decide??????

quickblade14
You realize you are in no way ready to do more than date, get laid, have, fun, and enjoy the moments spent together. You're NOT looking for a lifepartner - you're looking for a provider.And if you marry someone for providership - they'll provide for you on their terms...and you'll resent them for the terms eventually.

Singlemama81
Yes, that's kinda how I feel about my Bf, I feel that since he's soo much older, it will be on his terms, and that scares me, that I'll never be able to be myself, and have him except me for who I am. The other guy, I just feel it's all there, but how am I suppose to decide, and hurt someone, either way??

trudyML
Sounds like you decided and you are already hurting your bf. If you have any self respect at all left go tell your bf. Give him a break.

100pcentangel
these people just keep coming out of the woodwork today...reported

noquisi
You can't make a decision when your attention has been divided from the beginning. I don't understand, if you know that this boyfriend of yours is not right for you why do you keep forcing it upon yourself? Just break things off with your non compatible boyfriend and keep things light with your on line dating guy. The 2nd guy may seem great because its all new, you really cannot come to any conclusion as his character, just as he doesn't know your character at the moment. If he did I don't think he would want to get caught up with a confused person. Its time to be a grownup! Remember don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you. Always reverse the scenario and you will be guided on the right path.

glasslippers
What you are doing is so wrong in some many ways because you don't and have not cared for this man, you weren't looking for "Mr.Right" you were looking for "Mr.Right Now" and that's all your boyfriend was. Cut this man loose before you hurt him even more.

Minnesotagal
isn't this the same guy that you had your undies all in a bunch over because he was hanging out with his ex and their kid on holloween? and now your cheating on him? wow...why don't you just be single for a little while and get your head on straight. kind of sounds like you are afraid to be alone. please break up with your boyfriend because you obviously are not ready for a commited relationship.