A little help here please?

A little help here please?

island_gal34
I have been out of the dating pool for 14 years, so I’m not sure how it works.... I’m 34, divorced, no kids... My marriage was awful, my divorce worse... It was final in March... I have since forgiven my ex husband, but I have sworn that I would never get married again.... I am not even interested in a relationship. Every now and then though, I feel the need to be close and held by someone. There was a man I knew before I got married and we've kept in touch over the years. Since the divorce he's been pursuing me for more than friendship... How do I tell him that I am not interested in a relationship but I am not opposed to the occasional round of sex?

pinstripe
Simple, tell him exactly what you just typed. That you don't want a relationship, but you want occasional sex. If he is interested like you said, he'll definitely go for it.

-gypsy-
It's called friends with benefits... and you keep your place, I'll keep mine. We will spend time together when it's mutually acceptable.You do realize that you'll think you are falling in love with him at some point though, don't you? It's hard to be "close and held by someone" without getting a little emotional.

island_gal34
I have been out of the dating pool for 14 years, so I’m not sure how it works.... I’m 34, divorced, no kids... My marriage was awful, my divorce worse... It was final in March... I have since forgiven my ex husband, but I have sworn that I would never get married again.... I am not even interested in a relationship. Every now and then though, I feel the need to be close and held by someone. There was a man I knew before I got married and we've kept in touch over the years. Since the divorce he's been pursuing me for more than friendship... How do I tell him that I am not interested in a relationship but I am not opposed to the occasional round of sex?

pinstripe
Simple, tell him exactly what you just typed. That you don't want a relationship, but you want occasional sex. If he is interested like you said, he'll definitely go for it.

-gypsy-
It's called friends with benefits... and you keep your place, I'll keep mine. We will spend time together when it's mutually acceptable.You do realize that you'll think you are falling in love with him at some point though, don't you? It's hard to be "close and held by someone" without getting a little emotional.

island_gal34
I have been out of the dating pool for 14 years, so I’m not sure how it works.... I’m 34, divorced, no kids... My marriage was awful, my divorce worse... It was final in March... I have since forgiven my ex husband, but I have sworn that I would never get married again.... I am not even interested in a relationship. Every now and then though, I feel the need to be close and held by someone. There was a man I knew before I got married and we've kept in touch over the years. Since the divorce he's been pursuing me for more than friendship... How do I tell him that I am not interested in a relationship but I am not opposed to the occasional round of sex?

pinstripe
Simple, tell him exactly what you just typed. That you don't want a relationship, but you want occasional sex. If he is interested like you said, he'll definitely go for it.

-gypsy-
It's called friends with benefits... and you keep your place, I'll keep mine. We will spend time together when it's mutually acceptable.You do realize that you'll think you are falling in love with him at some point though, don't you? It's hard to be "close and held by someone" without getting a little emotional.