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veryopengal
Every county posts their county court records online. To find out the misdemeanors of the man your dating (or gal) google the county you live in and court records. All you need is first and last name and the gender. I got the shock of my life...he had a drug possession charge during our relationship! Check them out!
Guuuut
Check them out!Or up the quality of the people you meet.
veryopengal
Or up the quality of the people you meet.You cant always tell by looking at a well dressed, busy man that he might be into drugs. Now that I know I see where there may have been subtle signs. Hindsight is 20-20. At the time he just seemed to have a busy job that paid well. He dressed nice, treated me well. He had a temper the past few months, and THAT is why I checked into him. Some people are functioning addicts (meaning they can keep it together outwardly) and you never really know.
100pcentangel
But even checking court records might not yield any information about them. They might be into drugs yet never been arrested for that activity. There are many functioning addicts and I'm not just talking about substance abuse.
Oh Kay
Damn.....time to change the name AGAIN!
jtguy
OMG, he has a record, wow...shocking...who cares??? We are all addicts of something...ridiculous
veryopengal
Yes 100, but looking into them you can see if their finances are suffering (judgments for unpaid bills ect...) Its a nice tool to have was my point. Some people wont pay $50 to go through a service. Pulling up this mans county history gave me a glimpse of who I was really sleeping next to. I found out he was dangerous (destruction of public property) deceptive (drug possession and not repaying a $4000 loan from another woman) and deeply in debt from unpaid bills. NONE of this was something I could tell. He had a home, car, job and cash in his pocket. He was clean and well dressed. I never saw him looking under the influence unless he had been drinking. I am not the only person he fooled. Only people who have known him 5+ years have any idea he has troubles.
jillraye
OMG, he has a record, wow...shocking...who cares??? We are all addicts of something...ridiculousJT, is there something we should know about you?
veryopengal
OMG, he has a record, wow...shocking...who cares??? I do! I have have a child and don't want that in her life! This possession is RECENT. We all make mistakes but to be so deceptive and hide it, means his behavior is ongoing and could effect my child.
trudyML
Boy, we are way past snooping on MySpace.
100pcentangel
im not really that interested in his finances thank you, i am very self sufficient and independnt, not looking for a man to take care of my financial needs. I've been sober 16 months now and you could pull my name up on county records and find absolutely nothing about me. i was a functioning addict, always paid my bills, never got in trouble with the law. therefore this idea might be helpful for some but not for everyone. Tis true, you can't judge a book (or a person) by its (their) cover.
kerplunkLYN
Tis true, you can't judge a book (or a person) by its (their) cover.Thanks for clarifying! I always wondered what that meant!
100pcentangel
hmmm, I guess I could be considered deceptive since my weight on my driver's license is actually 20lbs less.
Oh Kay
You also won't know what he's doing in other counties. Have you ever seen him high? Has he asked you to borrow money? These things can be very misleading or very informative. Unfortunately the only way you'll know is to ask him.
veryopengal
I don't want anyone to "take care" of me. Nor do I have any interest in "taking care" of anyone but my child! When you talk about cohabitation or lifetime commitments, the back ground is fair game when children are involved! Snooping? NO, I call is very wise when you think there might be something wrong and you are just days away from living together. Had he not been so angry at the slow checker one day, or the bike rider in front of him moving too slow, or the man who miscounted his change by a few pennies and saw him go WAY off the deep end, I could be married to him in a few years and responsible for his unpaid debts. Lets not even get into my child finding his drugs!!!! Or that he is violent! If he were a casual thing, his background would be none of my business. Everyone deserves trust and privacy.
veryopengal
Come on 100....you cant really compare 20 lbs on your drivers license to drug convictions (10 days in jail) and destruction of public property (separate charge and date from the drugs) and taking a large sum of money from another woman all in the past 6 months!
jtguy
if he is using drugs when he is with you...thats one thing, but im sorry...many people have addictions to many things, illegal drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, soda, food, legal drugs, enabling, co-dependency, etc, etc...but if its in their past, its in thier past and to judge based on past stuff is just wrong...wrong to base it on what society deems is more wrong....example...is being a recovering alcoholic better than a recovering heroin addict? NO...equal...
wrx guy
if I found out someone I was seeing googled me for a criminal record.... Next.
jtguy
its a case by case deal and i understand if there is a kid involved...but ur right wrxguy...next
kerplunkLYN
If someone google'd my criminal record, they'd probably be saying NEXT....
jtguy
If someone google'd my criminal record, they'd probably be saying NEXT....Ditto X 5
100pcentangel
i get angry at the slow checker everytime im in the grocery store, the slow bike rider, he needs to get his ass on the sidewalk and out of my way, and the man who miscounted my change, hopefully it was in my favor.....doesnt make me a bad person or someone thats not good to be around children, in fact i have a kid
Jennaii
Tis true, you can't judge a book (or a person) by its (their) cover.Thanks for clarifying! I always wondered what that meant!Kerplunk you just crack me up. thanks for the smile:)
100pcentangel
hmmm, I guess I could be considered deceptive since my weight on my driver's license is actually 20lbs less.
Oh Kay
You also won't know what he's doing in other counties. Have you ever seen him high? Has he asked you to borrow money? These things can be very misleading or very informative. Unfortunately the only way you'll know is to ask him.
veryopengal
I don't want anyone to "take care" of me. Nor do I have any interest in "taking care" of anyone but my child! When you talk about cohabitation or lifetime commitments, the back ground is fair game when children are involved! Snooping? NO, I call is very wise when you think there might be something wrong and you are just days away from living together. Had he not been so angry at the slow checker one day, or the bike rider in front of him moving too slow, or the man who miscounted his change by a few pennies and saw him go WAY off the deep end, I could be married to him in a few years and responsible for his unpaid debts. Lets not even get into my child finding his drugs!!!! Or that he is violent! If he were a casual thing, his background would be none of my business. Everyone deserves trust and privacy.
veryopengal
Come on 100....you cant really compare 20 lbs on your drivers license to drug convictions (10 days in jail) and destruction of public property (separate charge and date from the drugs) and taking a large sum of money from another woman all in the past 6 months!
jtguy
if he is using drugs when he is with you...thats one thing, but im sorry...many people have addictions to many things, illegal drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, soda, food, legal drugs, enabling, co-dependency, etc, etc...but if its in their past, its in thier past and to judge based on past stuff is just wrong...wrong to base it on what society deems is more wrong....example...is being a recovering alcoholic better than a recovering heroin addict? NO...equal...
wrx guy
if I found out someone I was seeing googled me for a criminal record.... Next.
jtguy
its a case by case deal and i understand if there is a kid involved...but ur right wrxguy...next
kerplunkLYN
If someone google'd my criminal record, they'd probably be saying NEXT....
jtguy
If someone google'd my criminal record, they'd probably be saying NEXT....Ditto X 5
100pcentangel
i get angry at the slow checker everytime im in the grocery store, the slow bike rider, he needs to get his ass on the sidewalk and out of my way, and the man who miscounted my change, hopefully it was in my favor.....doesnt make me a bad person or someone thats not good to be around children, in fact i have a kid
Jennaii
Tis true, you can't judge a book (or a person) by its (their) cover.Thanks for clarifying! I always wondered what that meant!Kerplunk you just crack me up. thanks for the smile:)