a mans $ex drive?

a mans $ex drive?

nerdo
At what age do you think a mans drive starts to go down? How often do you think the average 40 year old man "needs" $ex?

Coool Dad
Well I'm 45 and it hasn't decreased at all, I would prefer 4-5 sessions a week. But, I've been told I have a high drive.

Orson78
Well I'm 45 and it hasn't decreased at allWell that is a reinsuring thought since the guy I am dating is 37.

Guuuut
How often do you think the average 40 year old man "needs" $ex?Lots of variables to consider including health, work, stress, health of relationship, type of relationship but anywhere from 2-4 times a week seems reasonable. If the 40 yo is married while he may want it 2-4 times a week, he is probably getting it 2 times a month. The better question is where does a woman's libido go when she gets married and has kids!

Kendra_is_Kendra
The better question is where does a woman's libido go when she gets married and has kids! Isn't this how you learned the erotic nature of doing the dishes? XD

Orson78
Isn't this how you learned the erotic nature of doing the dishes? Better yet flex those biceps pushing the vacuum.

nerdo
I accused this 40 yo man of lying for stating that he only needed it every 3-4 weeks. I am 10 years younger and usually date younger men who are a bit more needy. I guess. So I felt bad for the accusation, afterwards!

Oh Kay
Nobody NEEDS sex, and every single person is different. So one guy might say he NEEDS it everyday and another once a week, and another every two to three weeks. Some 20 year olds don't care and some 50 year olds are insatiable, it depends on the person, not the age.

Coool Dad
it depends on the person, not the age.I totally agree, there are many factors that come into play, as Guuut stated.

Guuuut
Isn't this how you learned the erotic nature of doing the dishes? XDI'm the dish and laundry king!! It's the "law of least interest", the person with the least interest controls the s.ex and controls the relationship.

Guuuut
Nobody NEEDS sex,In Maslow's hierarchy of physiological needs, s.ex is number of 4: Eating DrinkingSleepingSexIt's right up there with the other needs required for survival, although not as essential.

Orson78
I agree with Guuuut. Humans needs physical contact. Does not always mean sex, but we do need physical contact.

Oh Kay
It's right up there with the other needs required for survival, although not as essential. I don't agree. Believe it or not there are people who have never had sex. I don't see any of them dropping dead because of it. Physical contact is one thing, but you can get that from family, friends, pets. I went for 5 years without sex. It didn't bother me one bit. I have friends who have gone that long & longer...you actually find other things to think about. The more you have sex, the more you want sex.

jstmeand3
I went without for 3 years - hated not having it - I NEEDED it. Present SO is a guy with the same schedule as me - at least 4 times a week. Both of us are over 40 BTW - with 5 kids between us.

Oh Kay
hated not having it - I NEEDED it. You wanted it. There's a difference. People NEED water, they WANT a beer.

Savoir Faire
Nobody NEEDS sex,The above statement is actually factually incorrect. For a male, an active sex life is an important component of the various aspects of male health. When a male goes for a physical, one of the first questions his physcian will ask is "how is the sex life".

justalittletease
I got a ways to go before 40 - but I hope it doesn't end after 40--- I am going to have to find me some really sexy young ones!!!!

Guuuut
More Maslow: The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs": the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met. The deficiency needs are: Physiological needsThe physiological needs of the organism (those enabling homeostasis) take first precedence. These consist mainly of:Eating Drinking Sleeping Sex If some needs are not fulfilled, a human's physiological needs take the highest priority. Physiological needs can control thoughts and behaviours, and can cause people to feel sickness, pain, and discomfort.

Orson78
If some needs are not fulfilled, a human's physiological needs take the highest priority. Physiological needs can control thoughts and behaviours, and can cause people to feel sickness, pain, and discomfort.Well stated Guuuut.

Danger Russ
Physiological needs can control thoughts and behaviours, and can cause people to feel sickness, pain, and discomfort.Sounds about right. Not getting laid is pretty painful.

Guuuut
Well stated Guuuut.Maslow via Wiki

Oh Kay
The above statement is actually factually incorrect. For a male, an active sex life is an important component of the various aspects of male health. When a male goes for a physical, one of the first questions his physcian will ask is "how is the sex life". Whether a healthy sex life is good for you or not, people can live very well without one. It's not a necessity for survival. How often do you think Mother Theresa was out having sex? Or any nun? I'm not even going to mention Priests, they seem to be getting plenty.... People takes vows of celibacy, people CHOOSE to live a celibate life. Society places way too much emphasis on the sex act and way too little on the people performing those acts.

Orson78
Guuuut I had not dealt with him since I had to take physc in med school.

Danger Russ
physc in med school. Harvard or Yale?

trudyML
The above statement is actually factually incorrect. For a male, an active sex life is an important component of the various aspects of male health. When a male goes for a physical, one of the first questions his physcian will ask is "how is the sex life". Of course the doc is going to ask this question. STD's, ED, prostate issues, etc. I can't imagine the doc is just asking how many times you get laid in a week. The doc is opening up a conversation about if you have any issues that need to be addressed, discussed.

Kendra_is_Kendra
People who have more sex live longer! I feel that I need to live as long as I can. Connecting those two together means I need regular sex. Sex encourages and cements bonding between partners and in a relationship I need to feel bonded and to feel as though my partner is happy. So I need sex for those reasons. As well, I start to become less happy when I go without, and I do feel a need to be happy. Sex is not a luxury, nor is it unimportant. It may not kill you to go utterly without, such as food/water/sleep, but it will slowly kill you over time if you do not have your needs met.Same goes with love and companionship. We all have varying needs in those areas and going without can lead to an early death.Kay, your sexual needs sound incredibly low, but you cannot suggest that everyone must feel the same way. It'd be like saying because you don't need to write music so no one else does, you don't need to write down your emotions, so no one else does, you don't need to take hours alone each day to recharge so no one else does. I can go without salt but I've known people with deficiences who faint when they cannot have it. I need 7 hours of sleep, but I know people who need only 5 and others who need 9.Having zero sex for you still managed to satisfactorily fill your sexual needs, which I suppose were low to begin with, let's say a 1 or 2 out of 10. But of the people for whom it's a 8 or a 9, going without is damaging.

Oh Kay
Kay, your sexual needs sound incredibly low, but you cannot suggest that everyone must feel the same way. Actually that couldn't be further from the truth. The fact is I've learned that a sex life is not the most important thing in life. There are other things that are more important & rate higher. This could be an age thing, but believe me, my sex drive is just fine. It's just not the most important aspect of me.

Oh Kay
Having zero sex for you still managed to satisfactorily fill your sexual needs, which I suppose were low to begin with, let's say a 1 or 2 out of 10. But of the people for whom it's a 8 or a 9, going without is damaging. Hahahaha! I said I went without sex for 5 years, not 35 years. And I said it didn't kill me. Didn't bother me, as a matter of fact. I had plenty of sex before then and I've had plenty since then. I just don't define myself by my sexuality like so many people do.

Kendra_is_Kendra
My aunt went without for five years too, after her husband passed. On the fifth year she was confiding in me her unhappiness about this and her sadness. I guess it didn't bother you, but I can assure you her quality of life was not in a great place. It occupied a lot of her thoughts and was affecting her emotions.She didn't need to tell me the drought was over. I could see it when she was dancing up a storm at a wedding, smiling and dare I say glowing. Again, Kay, I wish you would understand that your sexuality is yours, not the generalized human experience.

Oh Kay
Again, Kay, I wish you would understand that your sexuality is yours, not the generalized human experience. That's exactly right, like yours is yours, and the OP's man friend's is his. No two people are the same. I believe that's what I said in my first post. What I'm trying to get across is that no one will die from not having sex. It's not a requirement for life...well not an already formed life anyhow. People tend to make it more important than it is. If I could never have sex again I'm sure I'd miss it, but I certainly wouldn't be sitting around moping, I'd find something else to do with that energy. And if my guy suddenly couldn't have sex again, I'd still love him, because I didn't fall in love with his penis, I fell in love with his mind.

SultryD
Nobody NEEDS sex,Lord knows how much you NEED it.....

Orson78
Lord knows how much you NEED it.....That's my girl!

jstmeand3
I don't care what anyone says - I NEEDED it! I got the relationship I NEEDED to have the sex life I NEEDED. to the poster who stated they have a ways to go till 40, don't worry it will still be fantastic if you want it too be! Everyone has there own list of "needs" vs. "wants". I lived w/o it - but I am sure less cranky now!

Robert_not_Bobby
At what age do you think a mans drive starts to go down? How often do you think the average 40 year old man "needs" $ex?I’m 38 and I can honestly say that I am a much better lover today than I was at 18. I don’t know why I remember things like this but when I was 18 with my then girlfriend we screwed 14 times in about 6 hours, but I was like a fumbling bunny rabbit. Now, three or four times…and I last much, much longer, and it is so much more satisfying.

Danger Russ
Consider all of the insects in the world whose desire to reproduce outweighs the desire to live. The male black widow spider comes to mind... and all those flies that grow underground for years only to finally emerge and reproduce in their one day of life above ground. The urge to reproduce is one of those things that is controlled by chemicals in the brain, just like the urge to eat. Most of us would not die from not eating for two weeks, but few of us could deny our urge to eat for that long when food is readily available.

Oh Kay
Lord knows how much you NEED it.....Of course Slutry, because we all know that having sex makes you a smarter, better, funnier person, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound. I can't figure out what happened to you though.... stupid men with little penises maybe?