Asking Someone Out

Asking someone out can be a nerve-wracking experience. Will they say yes? Will they say no? Worse, will they laugh, or make some disparaging remark? We have all been there. We have all had the sweaty palms, the butterflies, and the tongue that doesn’t want to work anymore.  Sound familiar? Read on, and pick up some valuable tips on how to succeed in asking someone out.

Different scenarios call for different strategies when asking someone out. Obviously, the total stranger will require a different approach to a friend of a friend.

The total stranger. This is probably the trickiest situation of them all when asking someone out. If the person is someone you have been talking to in a bar and the conversation has been going well for 30 minutes, chances are they are interested in you. Mention catching up for a coffee or movie and see what they say. Exchange phone numbers. If they are keen to set up a specific time, then do so. It should be noted that dating experts state that if you do not call within 48 hours of exchanging numbers, the impetus and interest of the other person will start to wane. Use this to your advantage.

The friend of a friend. Asking someone out when he or she is not a total stranger can be easier. You can suggest going as a group somewhere, or you can be more specific. By being more specific, and mentioning the word “date”, there will be no misunderstandings. The other person knows that you are interested in them and isn’t left to second guess. If you feel the other peson doesn’t know you well enough, you could always invite yourself along in a group activity first. Then after that, ask the person out.

When “I am busy that night” is really that. Asking someone out is disconcerting when they tell you they are otherwise occupied. Is this a “No”? Dating experts state that 50% of the time the other person really is busy. If the other person suggests an alternative time straight away, you know they are interested but are genuinely tied up for the original day. In this instance, arrange an alternative time now. If they look uncomfortable at the mention of catching up another time, then they are probably not going to go out with you.

Asking someone out makes everyone nervous. Just remember, “if you don’t ask, you won’t get”.